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For my Grandma - Walking on the Edge
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For my Grandma
My Grandma passed away on Wednesday, June 16, after a short unexpected illness of double pneumonia and sepsis. We all miss her terribly. She was an amazing, amazing person, a great mother and grandmother and great-grandmother, a strong, brave, loving woman, and much, much more. I don't even know how to sum up the 86 years of her life, so instead, I'll post a few pictures and a poem my sister wrote.


In her 20's (around 1940-45) - so pretty.

In the '70s

One of the things that Grandma and Grandpa always did together - the dishes.

My grandparents.

Grandma with my aunt, who looks SO much like her.


A poem by my sister Jennifer. (Originally written for my grandfather, but the sentiment is the same, so I'm sure she would forgive me the liberty of using it for this sad event as well.)

For Grandma

The sun moves steadily through its motions
the way we rise, wash our faces, wash towels--
still moving, whether we want to or not
because we don’t know how to stop
without being too final. I say again;
My Grandmother is gone;
and when she was here, she thought of us
and we could have heard her words.

We go on without each other.
This is the miracle and the sadness: we go on.
This is the senselessness and the promise: we continue
with our feet on the ground and our love
winging around us in great white clouds.
We act in memoriam;
we act for the unimagined future.
There is no one to teach us to grieve.
Sometimes, sleep-deprived, loss sends us askew
and other times we speak brilliantly, live brilliantly, forget how things pass.
We loved you, we keep loving you
and the other breathing beings passing by us,
and other breathing beings passing by.


We love you, Grandma. We miss you.

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particle_person From: particle_person Date: June 23rd, 2010 02:33 am (UTC) (current file)
I'm really sorry, foresthouse. She sounded great.
pathology_doc From: pathology_doc Date: June 23rd, 2010 02:39 am (UTC) (current file)
My condolences.
oxymoron67 From: oxymoron67 Date: June 23rd, 2010 03:36 am (UTC) (current file)
I'm so very sorry.
ellen_datlow From: ellen_datlow Date: June 23rd, 2010 03:57 am (UTC) (current file)
I'm so sorry to hear this. She looks and sounds as if she was a wonderful person.
spectralbovine From: spectralbovine Date: June 23rd, 2010 04:07 am (UTC) (current file)
I'm sorry about your Grandma.
poinsley From: poinsley Date: June 23rd, 2010 04:07 am (UTC) (current file)
I'm so sorry.
cutebutpsycho99 From: cutebutpsycho99 Date: June 23rd, 2010 04:25 am (UTC) (current file)
My sympathies to you and your family. She sounds like she was a great woman.
kokopellinelli From: kokopellinelli Date: June 23rd, 2010 04:32 am (UTC) (current file)
*hug* I'm so sorry for your loss, Em. She sounds like an amazing woman. And those photos are wonderful! She looks so kind. You kind of look like her.
bktheirregular From: bktheirregular Date: June 23rd, 2010 07:32 am (UTC) (current file)
So sorry for your loss...
coneycat From: coneycat Date: June 23rd, 2010 10:58 am (UTC) (current file)

She looks like a lovely person, and I'm glad you have so many wonderful memories of her.
inlaterdays From: inlaterdays Date: June 23rd, 2010 11:46 am (UTC) (current file)
I'm so sorry for your loss.
lyrainverse From: lyrainverse Date: June 23rd, 2010 12:57 pm (UTC) (current file)
I'm so sorry. Your grandmother is beautiful, and your sister's poem is incredible.
library_of_sex From: library_of_sex Date: June 23rd, 2010 04:10 pm (UTC) (current file)
I'm so sorry for you and your family's loss, my dear. My condolences to all of you. *HUGS*

Thank you so much for sharing those pix of her. I just love seeing the changes throughout the decades. It's like snapshots of history and fashion! Plus, your grandparents doing dishes? Too sweet!
emmacmf From: emmacmf Date: June 23rd, 2010 07:57 pm (UTC) (current file)
I'm so sorry, my lovely.

Grandmas are the best, and yours looks like she was particularly special.
skyblade From: skyblade Date: June 23rd, 2010 09:32 pm (UTC) (current file)
I'm sorry.
laurelin_kit From: laurelin_kit Date: June 24th, 2010 02:44 am (UTC) (current file)
I'm sorry. *hug*
narfzz From: narfzz Date: June 24th, 2010 02:54 am (UTC) (current file)
I'm sorry about your Grandma. She sounds like an amazing woman, she looked so beautiful. May her memories be your strength!
kirpunz From: kirpunz Date: June 24th, 2010 05:23 am (UTC) (current file)
I am very sorry about your grandma.
nixve From: nixve Date: June 24th, 2010 03:10 pm (UTC) (current file)
oh, Emily! Much much sympathy!
I know how it feels to lose an adored grandmother. I hope things get better as easily as they can.
prettyh From: prettyh Date: June 24th, 2010 07:16 pm (UTC) (current file)
Oh, Em. Please, please forgive me for missing this. My health and a loss in my own family aren't excuses; had I been paying closer attention, you would have heard from me a week ago, not just now.

I am so sorry for your loss and your pain. I've lost both of my grandmothers, and know well the disorienting ache of feeling as though the glue that holds the family together just...suddenly isn't there. If you need to talk, please let me know - and that's not a latitude. I mean it with all of my heart. ♥

Is there anywhere that you think your grandmother would've liked people to send donations in her name? Something that matters to your family?
From: sethb Date: June 24th, 2010 09:11 pm (UTC) (current file)
My condolences.
elfie_chan From: elfie_chan Date: June 24th, 2010 11:16 pm (UTC) (current file)
My condolences are late, but are full of no less love.

*huge hugs* I'm so sorry.
chrryblssmninja From: chrryblssmninja Date: June 26th, 2010 04:44 am (UTC) (current file)
I'm sorry this is late - I'm at skip=600 on my flist - but it looks like she was really lovely. R.I.P.
lady_of_mists From: lady_of_mists Date: June 26th, 2010 07:32 am (UTC) (current file)
:hugs: I'm sorry for your loss. :(
From: virginia_belle Date: July 4th, 2010 12:31 am (UTC) (current file)
Sorry to post this so late - I just got back in town. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, though. I'm glad you all have so many wonderful memories of your grandmother to treasure.
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