November 28th, 2006

trixie wtf

A Quiver-full of Anger

So I found this site via cleolinda's link to some info on the Quiver-full people. (And in case you are interested, here's what a woman who used to be part of the Quiver-full belief system has to say about it now.) The site's apparently primarily geared toward a "Christian" method of raising and maintaining your family, especially "training" your children - through such things as beating them with a stick. Spiffy! It emphasizes the submission of women to men, and other endearingly antiquated concepts that men try to use to keep a good woman down. Excuse my bitterness, but I just couldn't help it after reading this article, "A Wise Woman Builds Her House" written by one of the two authors (the female, incredibly) of the site and accompanying books. It's in the Relationships section and deals with marriages. It's so de-humanizing to women that it just makes me cringe, yet each bit is somewhat subtle, so that people might actually be saying, "Oh, yes, ok, I can see that a woman should strive to be confident and capable. I can get behind that." and miss the parts that say, for instance, "A wise woman understands that her husband’s need to be honored is not based on his performance but on his position. She learns quickly to defer with enthusiasm to his ideas or plans. She looks for ways to reverence him. She knows this is God’s will for her life." I mean, really. No matter how great he is, a woman's husband isn't God himself. He's just a human being like her. What do these people expect, that she's going to sit at his feet and stare adoringly at him before offering him a peeled grape? And never voice an opinion when he has one first? GAH.

The article pissed me off so much, I wrote my own version of the list of things a "wise woman" should do. I like mine infinitely better:

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I feel somewhat better now. But only because I cut myself off from reading the other articles on the site when I started yelling at the screen.